Posts by kvalenti

A Year in Review (2012)

Posted by on Dec 30, 2012 in Blog, Ideas in practice | 0 comments

I want to start by thanking you again for your continued support and encouragement on this blog. It is not always easy to know what to say or how to say it, but you’ve stuck with me and given me much to think about (not only refining my existing strategies and tweaking them as need be, but coming up with many new and effective ones). I am truly looking forward to another year with you! To wrap up the year, I wanted to share some of our top Tot Thoughts posts. Multiple Intelligences and Creativity The primary focus of this blog is to provide resources for the development of children’s multiple intelligences and creativity. You can find all of the posts that deal with creativity here. Some of the most popular posts this year were the ones offering activities to help develop children’s multiple intelligences. You can find the full list here. Of particular interest were the following: Activities – Linguistic Intelligence Activities – Musical Intelligence Activities – Spatial Intelligence Activities – Logical-Mathematical Intelligence Activities – Bodily Intelligence Activities – Intrapersonal Intelligence Activities – Interpersonal Intelligence Activities – Naturalistic Intelligence Empowerment Empowerment is about helping children develop their potential, to be capable of achieving great things and confident in their ability to do so. You can see all of the related posts here. I personally recommend you check out The Negotiator, including the three ground rules for effective negotiations with children: respect, fairness, and flexibility. Top posts included: 7 Habits of Highly Effective Parents Making time-outs effective 10 Key Competencies for Success Building Children’s Self-Esteem Teaching Children how to be Brave Education My goal has been to provide practical suggestions for teachers and parents to enhance their own educational initiatives. You can see all of the related posts here. Some key tips included: Helping your child cope when he feels that “everyone else is better than me!” Thoughts on why our children refuse to talk to us. Developing Multiple Intelligences in Babies Thoughts on Education vs. Discipline Parenting Finally, I have wanted to empower you as parents to identify effective strategies that work for you and your family. You can see all of the related posts here. In addition to many of the ones listed above, some favorite posts included: Saying goodbye to Santa Claus Special ways to celebrate birthdays A long overdue introduction to the Master of Disaster I wish you all a happy and prosperous new year! _________________________ PS – I am starting a new monthly newsletter with tips, resources and activities delivered straight to your inbox each month. Interested? Sign up here. © Tot Thoughts – smart parenting for smart child...

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Happy Holidays

Posted by on Dec 24, 2012 in Blog, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Today we are taking it slow here at Tot Thoughts so we’ll keep it nice and simple: Thank you for your incredible support this year. I wish you all the best in 2013!

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Brothers and Sisters

Posted by on Aug 19, 2011 in Blog, Humor | 1 comment

I give you the “Awesome Brothers” and the “Sensational Sisters.” Gotta love...

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This Morning

Posted by on Aug 11, 2011 in Blog, Humor | 0 comments

This is what I saw when I walked into the Negotiator’s room this morning: Nice.

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10 Questions – Failed Ideas

Posted by on Jun 30, 2011 in Blog, Thoughts | 0 comments

I recently gave an interview for Idea Mensch, a global “community of people with ideas.” One of the questions was: how do you cope with an idea that has failed? This question seemed very intriguing to me and I think it serves as a good base for today’s 10 Questions. So, here are 10 questions you should always ask yourself when faced with an idea that has failed. As an example, I’ll use my own original “failed” idea that eventually got me to Rock Thoughts, which I consider to be a rather successful one. 1. How does the failure of your idea make you feel? I start with this question because it is the one we most often ignore. We rarely like to talk about our feelings of defeat, let alone acknowledge them. However, unless we recognize the emotional impact that a failure can have on us, it will color our decision-process for everything else that follows. Obviously we will all feel angry or disappointed or frustrated. The key is to give our feelings on the matter an opportunity to vent so that we can then tackle the failure without being moved by the emotion. My original idea was to do a form of collaborative storytelling that could be conducted on-line leading up to books delivered virtually and in print. After over a year of actively developing this concept, I stumbled upon Storybird which is exactly what I wanted to do. I was utterly devastated. I had invested so much time, energy and emotion into my idea and it had already been developed and in a beautiful way! There was nothing left for me to do. I literally closed my computer and walked away determined to sulk my way into forgetting the whole thing. I realized, however, that the sulking emotion was clouding my vision so I gave myself a day to be sad and then moved on to step (2) below. 2. What is the specific idea that has failed?  An idea is comprised of many components, all of which are interconnected but not all of which “fail.” Therefore, it is important to separate that which is still viable from that which you think no longer has merit. The reason for this is that the valid content may be useful in reformulating your idea (see below) and the failed content will be useful to analyze  in order to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. Storybird had certainly captured the bulk of my original idea; however, when I looked more closely at my specific concept, it turned out to be broader than what Storybird was doing and therefore allowed me some flexibility to create something new and different. 3. Why do you think the idea has failed? This is probably the most important question you can ask and it goes to the heart of how you understand “failure.” Perhaps I’m stating the obvious but, how we define failure affects how we view our success. Some questions to ask: are you relying on your own parameters or those set my a social system, are you working off of your expectations or those of others, are you looking at the idea on a short-term or long-term basis, etc? The point here is that we oftentimes deem an idea to have failed when in fact, if we revise our understanding of failure, we will see that the idea may still be viable. I thought the idea had failed because it had already been done and there was nothing new for me to add. However, once I looked more closely at my idea, I...

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