"Raising intelligent, independent and empowered kids."

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What is Tot Thoughts?

This site is designed to provide you with insightful thoughts and practical ideas on how to raise kids who are intelligent, independent and empowered.

I also explore ways to develop children’s multiple intelligences and strategies for teaching children to be effective negotiators (both invaluable skills for the development of any intelligent, independent and empowered child).


Why it matters?

Raising intelligent, independent and empowered children is important.


– because throughout your child’s life, people will try to tell them what to do, how to behave, or what they should think. You want your child to make those decisions on their own.

– because your child will have friends who will make poor decisions. You want your child to know better.

– because your child will be faced with difficult choices. You want them to have the courage to do the right thing.

– because intelligent, independent and empowered kids have the ability to achieve extraordinary things. And you know your child can be extraordinary.



Raising intelligent, independent and empowered kids is not small task. But you already know that.

You also know that it’s immensely important. And maybe that’s where I can help.

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